Particpate in the battle?

Jim suggested that we move towards another book leaving the Eldredge Books behind.  The suggestion on the table is http://www.leaderu.com/orgs/probe/docs/4pillars.html 
Reading the review, this is another battle book.  "Satan's effectiveness in destroying God's image through male-female alienation, by whatever means, has been incalculably costly to the human race."(5) This is where the current battle rages.

I was wondering in yesterday's class if there is a way to rise above the battle and live victoriously.  Put another way is Jesus in the battle with us, or is He leaning on a fence post saying "what fight?  I am victorious over it"   Is this what is meant by "turn the other cheek"

Jeremiah 9:4-6

 ⁴ "Beware of your friends;  do not trust your brothers. For every brother is a deceiver, and every friend a slanderer.
 ⁵ Friend deceives friend, and no one speaks the truth. They have taught their tongues to lie; they weary themselves with sinning. ⁶ You live in the midst of deception; in their deceit they refuse to acknowledge me,"
       declares the LORD.

Isaiah 55:6-8

 ⁶ Seek the LORD while he may be found; call on him while he is near.
 ⁷ Let the wicked forsake his way  and the evil man his thoughts.
       Let him turn to the LORD, and he will have mercy on him, and to our God, for he will freely pardon.
 ⁸ "For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,"
       declares the LORD.

1 Peter 3:10-12 (New International Version)

¹⁰For,  "Whoever would love life and see good days must keep his tongue from evil and his lips from deceitful speech.
 ¹¹He must turn from evil and do good; he must seek peace and pursue it.
 ¹²For the eyes of the Lord are on the righteous and his ears are attentive to their prayer,
   but the face of the Lord is against those who do evil."

If each day turn away from our habitual sins then we can have the Jesus leaning on the fence post.  Since to get drawn down in the pit there requires a wanting to deceive ourselves, where does the pride, envy, strife come from? We would deceive ourselves to not recognize that the one who left us continued on to this day in her immorality. It is so hard to think that someone loved would be on the side of "evil" in the sight of the Lord.  Is God just mean and puts lots of arbitrary rules in place?   To look at the pain that has been created in two people immediate lives and the collateral pain from the larger community, I would say God knows best.
 How to turn?
In class they went for just a second into how to turn from evil. Sure we are pretty good at identifying evil  Being one who has been caught up in doing evil in the sight of the Lord, I would say a couple of words "you just need to stop doing that" is not all that helpful in turning away.   "I am going to stop doing evil" will just result in another day of doing it.  Real friends who speak truth into your life are a great help in this area.  The shame of them "finding out" is sometimes enough.  Of course we delude ourselves into not thinking it is not evil, but deep down we know it is. Or sometimes we just get comfortable with the evil or start drinking or drugging to make the evil comfortable by becoming numb.

Ephesians 4:24-26 

²⁴and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness.
 ²⁵Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to his neighbor, for we are all members of one body. ²⁶"In your anger do not sin": Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry,

By wanting the fencepost Jesus am I ignoring or running away from a fight that is going on that has been set up by God, or am I living expectantly and where God wants me to be.