What did your dad do?

Mr Eldredge would suggest our current daily fears are about something our dad's did or didn't do.  How long are we under that spell?   Is it a constant fight to get out of that injured mode, or is there the image of the new creature in Christ that will heal us and let us be what God want's us to be.


When the worries of this current day's issues about what to do next degenerate into the "Gosh what is holding you back?" "I don't know" "you could fail" "Is it the right move?" Then how much time do we spend stuck.   Is the answer always "move forward"?  

The healer chapter 6

Can Jesus heal the wounds that were left by our father?  Jim says yes.  and thus it is so.   Where are the people that could mentor?  Maybe it is a collection.  Why can't guys complete projects?  Kathy has no idea how men work was her response. :-)   My theory of why men can't get a project finished is that we are perfectionist.  Once the project is not meeting up with the idea in our heads, we are not willing to put more time into it.  There is probably the fear of starting a tape from our past about "Well you are not really good at anything anyways" or something like that.  One of us has the "how do I start"?

Wounds

Emotional Wounds -  why can women see them, and we can't?  Are we so trained in the no blood, nothing dangling so you should be good to get back into the game.  That means when someone is emotionally wounding us, we don't know that someone is hurting us.  That means we don't know to tell that person to stop hurting us.  Are all us men that obtuse in the emotional division.

I know that going through the dating process for so long made it rather mechanical for me.  I eventually lost some of the fun out of it because I never knew what was working or what was not.

What is the healing if we are emotionally not plugged in?